Why You’re Not Really Living Life (And How To Start Today).
I’m going to make a wild assumption.
I bet my left foot you’re currently stressed, aren’t you?
Why would I assume such a thing?
Because the harsh reality is that stress literally SURROUNDS you at ALL times.
Think about it. Everything you see in media conveys dread, shock, horror, fear, anxiety or disgust in one way or another. It’s enough to make you want to lose your faith in humanity.
A feel good story about a baby panda born in the zoo doesn’t make up for the proverbial shit hitting the fan everywhere else.
Subconsciously, we are bombarded with natural disasters, food shortages, disease outbreaks, crime waves, terrorist attacks and hate crimes on a nightly basis.
The sad part is that this isn’t even an exhaustive list, it’s just the tip of the iceberg of negativity and awfulness we’re all bombarded with.
Add to that chronic life stress, and it’s like pouring gasoline on an already massive fire. Point being, chronic stress is out of control.
Maybe that doesn’t seem like a big deal. After all, what is stress really?
They’re just thoughts and feelings, right? No big deal.
It’s easy to down play it’s significance like that, and It’s even easier to go about your day, convinced that stress doesn’t matter.
That is until you start to feel the physical symptoms of stress, which include:
Daily headaches, irritability, anxiety, low-energy, depression, brain fog and lack of concentration at the least.
High blood pressure, insomnia, poor athletic performance and recovery, disease onset or worsening and sexual dysfunction when it’s really wrecking havoc on your body.
That’s the reality of stress.
You could say, “quit watching the news.” But that doesn’t guarantee you’ll escape it’s nasty, negative effects.
Because before long, someone at work talks about this earthquake, or that protest. Or, someone talks about how shocked they are that this government launched that missile (sound familar?).
So the stress keeps piling on no matter what you do, because it always seeps in from the outside.
Even standing in line at the supermarket means you’ll see magazines and newspapers. I wasn’t joking, when I said that it surrounds you everywhere you go.
Bad news won’t kill you, but the resulting chronic stress symptoms might…
Heart attacks, diabetes, cancer, and strokes are just a FEW of the physical symptoms of extreme stress. Even when they aren’t the primary cause, they greatly increase the severity of these diseases. The sad cache 22 of it all is that the diseases themselves are stressful and worrisome. So you have a stress related illness, you feel stressed, and then that contributes to the disease itself.
It becomes a nightmarish cycle of stress, worry, and anxiety which only you as an INDIVIDUAL have the power to break. Maybe you’re like a lot of people who get up, go to work, read the news, take in all the bad vibes, and never get to live life. Now, that’s your decision as an adult if you’re fine with living that way. After all, who am I to tell you how to live?
But I’d like to think that you want to live a good and fulfilling life. That doesn’t mean some unrealistic fantasy either. You simply want an enjoyable life that’s purposeful and meaningful.
Well dear readers, the truth is that you have to work to build a good life every single day.
It seems harsh, but I’m not in the business of lying to anyone, especially readers that need honest advice.
You see, those things aren’t birthrights or entitlements, and no one else can give you the good life you deserve.
It takes a decision.
A decision to stop merely existing and to start living.
Do that, and you start living; because if you don’t start really living your life today, it will be over in the blink of an eye. The sands of time don’t stop for any man (or woman). When the sand’s done a tricklin’, it’s done a tricklin’.
People seem to forget that time is the only true non-renewable resource. Not only that, you don’t even know how much you have!
It’s like a bank account where you have no idea what the balance is. So as you think about that, you can see that making the most of your time is THE most important investment of your life.
Again, this sounds doom and gloom. I don’t want to ruin anybody’s day.
I just want to give you the straight truth on how important this decision is. The sooner you make it, the better.
But don’t worry, the decision isn’t always one of toil or burden. Part of dealing with stress is simply living and accepting everything as it is. That means accepting the circumstances you or others are in, but it also means being okay with the way you feel about them
Many people may tell you that you can’t ever feel frustrated, exasperated or worried. Or they may say that you should always think about someone who has a situation worse than yours.
While that’s well meaning advice, it’s not helpful. Suffering is always relative to whatever you are used to and have been through before. What is an intense hardship to me may not be to you or vice versa. Our subjective experience of reality is different depending on the lives we’ve lived. So don’t feel guilty for recognizing the signs of stress in yourself, because that’s more stress piled right on top of stress.
So what should you do instead? What should you focus on?
Seek out all the wonderful, positive gifts life has to give you. Look and marvel at the beauty of nature in all its glory. learn gratitude and thankfulness for what you have, and practice it regularly.
Take a day each week to just be. Go out in nature or off your normal beaten path in a city or town. Turn off your phone and any electronics. Go into random stores, shops, make conversation with clerks, assistant or other random folks. Try and brighten their day. Explore like this until you’re exhausted. Breathe in life as deeply as you can, and remember how wondrous existence truly is. To live well, is to let go.
Don’t say you’re too busy. Your schedule may be hectic, but you can manage half a day to do this for yourself. If you absolutely can’t, then you need to make DRASTIC changes to your life, even if others aren’t happy about it.
Lastly, always help others when you can. The universe seeks to find a balance in all things, and if you live in harmony with everything, you become part of that universal balance. The tides of the ocean are a metaphor for that very balance. Love yourself enough to achieve balance, and you can start truly being, as opposed to just existing.
That being said, there’s nothing wrong with a little help to start truly being. After everything you’ve read, you now understand that your sense of well-being is the TOP priority in your life.
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It’s that easy to shut out all the noise trying to drown you in stress, ruining the precious moments of your life you have left.
Love yourself enough to reject that, it’s your God given right.
Take care until next time,